The Need for History

A year ago, Jennifer and Michael shared their experiences as awaiting parents. They were told by the children’s aid that they would be “dinosaurs” before they would adopt a child. They are happy to report that a few months ago, they were selected and transitioned 2 beautiful children into their home.

Jennifer*, along with her husband Michael*, have recently adopted two children from the public system.

 A year ago, Jennifer and Michael shared their experiences as awaiting parents. They were told by the children’s aid that they would be “dinosaurs” before they would adopt a child. They are happy to report that a few months ago, they were selected and transitioned 2 beautiful children into their home. The whole process seemed quick and surreal. They met the kids and within two weeks, they were living in their home!

 Shortly after the children moved in, behaviours started to surface. Although it is not uncommon to see changes in behaviour after a transition, Jennifer and Michael felt unprepared for these needs. They sought the help of their social worker to get more information on the children’s past. Jennifer and Michael were provided with no written history on the children or their birth parents; only a brief verbal history. When they advocated for more information, a 5 page document was received with repetitive, generalized information, but no details.

 Jennifer and Michael would like to see open communication and disclosure of files when children are adopted. This information is crucial in understanding the children’s needs and working to support them during the transition into their new adoptive homes. This would prevent potential breakdowns and lessen stress for families.